Adopting Older Children

Research 2008-ISSIRC-study

The International Reference Centre for the Rights of Children Deprived of Their Family (ISS/IRC) have published a study on the adoption of older children.
The document presents an evaluation of the state of these adoptions and highlights the principles that are to be respected to ensure the best possible chance of success.

The study aims to give priority to meeting the needs of older children and the expectations of the adoption applicants.  From this point of view, the document provides an assessment of the state of such adoptions and highlights the principles that need to be respected in order to ensure the best possible chances of a successful adoption.

At the end of its analysis, the ISS/IRC study concludes that the adoption of older children succeeds, on average, no less than the adoption of babies, on the condition that these children and their adoptive family are prepared.  However, it's true that their integration into their new family, social and school environment seems a little slower and convoluted than that of their younger peers. Bonding and behavioural difficulties may in particular manifest themselves during the first months after their arrival. But very often, these shortcomings disappear once the child has fully been integrated into his environment.  Unfortunately, the possibility of these difficulties seems to create enough fear in certain applicants to dissuade them.  Consequently, it becomes a matter of urgency to show that the adoption of older children, if it is correctly carried out and adequately supported, is possible, desirable and often turns out very well.

Adopting An Older Child – Extract from “Our Own” by Trish Maskew.

 Adopting an older child is not for wimps. If you think trying to calm down a 2-year-old in the store is embarrassing, just imagine the stares you get when your 8-year-old throws a fit in the cereal aisle.

While adopting an older child adoption brings a different set of challenges, the joy and satisfaction for parents of helping an older child adapt and become a happy, integrated member of the family is enormous.

This book is highly recommended for those considering older child adoption.

BabyHouse10
The Boy from Baby House 10: From the Nightmare of a Russian Orphanage to a New Life in America.

 

 

The Connected Child

ConnectedChild

A tremendous resource for parents and professionals alike

 

 

Building the Bonds of Attachment

Building the bonds of attachmentAwakening Love in Deeply Troubled Children by Daniel A. Hughes.

This book uses a case study in an easy-to-read way to explain why some children have attachment issues and how parents can improve attachment. Hughes, a very well known psychologist and author, portrays the child's inner world, allowing the reader to gain a greater understanding of the child's view of life.