The developmental needs of institutionalized children are well documented and we advise you to educate yourself on this topic so that you can offer wise parenting to these children and have realistic expectations, not idealistic ones. Here are some online articles you may find interesting:
A new study disputes the notion that children adopted from other countries tend to be badly damaged emotionally because of the hardships they had to endure. The analysis of more than 50 years of international data found that these youngsters are only slightly more likely than non-adopted children to have behavioural problems such as aggressiveness and anxiety. And they actually seem to have fewer problems than children adopted within their own countries.
Researchers Femmie Juffer and Marinus H. Van IJzendoorn of Leiden University in the Netherlands pooled results from 137 studies on adoptions by parents living in the United States, Canada, Europe, Australia, New Zealand and Israel. In the study, adopted children in general had more behaviour problems than non-adopted youngsters, regardless of where the adoption took place - a result that is not surprising, since both groups often suffer deprivation and come from broken families.
But with backgrounds that often include abandonment, orphanages and civil strife, foreign adoptees are sometimes thought of as difficult, disruptive children, an image that the study does not support, the researchers said.
"Before adoption, most international adoptees experience insufficient medical care, malnutrition, maternal separation, and neglect and abuse in orphanages," the researchers said. But to their surprise, they found that these children do well and are largely able to catch up with their non-adopted counterparts.